Our marriage is 9 years old today. Were it a child it would be in 4th grade now. Chances are it would have lost its front baby teeth, and have memorized the names of all the planets (minus Pluto, which got demoted). It will have been informed that our Earth circumambulates the sun, but will not yet have been introduced to trigonometry or taxes. If, on the other hand, our marriage were a medium-sized dog, it would be 56 human years old today. It will have acquired, after years of frenzied puppyhood, an air of gravitas. It will have lost some hearing and declared a truce with the squirrels. It will spend inordinate amounts of time asleep in golden swaths of sunlight wearing a smile. And now seeing that we are considering hypotheticals, here’s another: if our marriage were a sturdy oak somewhere on a windswept hillside, it would still be waiting quietly for its first acorns (yet a decade perhaps two away). But hidden deep in its heartwood, it will have already begun a stunning and concentric collection of rings.
Our marriage, assuming you care to know, happens to be at once all and none of the above. A thing unto itself, unfolding and alive. Teachable, warm-bodied, deep-rooted. Mortal. And somehow more — so much more — than I dared ever ask of this dazzling world.
November 13th, 2014 at 11:09 am
Beautiful and best of luck & love!
November 13th, 2014 at 12:26 pm
Looovely. Reminds me a bit of David Whyte, 🙂 with that intermingling of everydayness and profundity and stunning ending. Happy enneaversary you two.
November 13th, 2014 at 2:43 pm
Awwwe, I remember it all like it was yesterday 🙂 Happy 9 years, and lovely to see some of your poetry again P after a while! Love,
November 13th, 2014 at 8:32 pm
Wow/ you hardly write these days pavithra. Please please please write more often.
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November 13th, 2014 at 8:40 pm
Beautiful and so accurate! Having completed 10 years of mine on this day, I have to agree with every word of what you have written about marriage. And it isn’t just about marriage. Even as an individual,we are constantly shuttling between different levels of maturity or learning, and evolving between the various degrees.
November 13th, 2014 at 10:11 pm
Beautiful Pavi!!! A very very happy anniversary to both of you and may you celebrate many more together!!!
November 13th, 2014 at 11:00 pm
Happy Anniversary to both of you! Wishing you many many more such joyful years together.
November 17th, 2014 at 2:47 am
November 17th, 2014 at 12:09 pm
What a lovely tribute to your spouse and the life you continue to create together. I wish you many more concentric rings!